adversity shows you who your real friends are

My recent divorce has been the most challenging event I have faced in my 34 years of existence. I have never felt so shaken in every aspect of my being. Physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. I think the hardest thing about this has been trying to find myself again. Trying to regain some sense of normalcy. It hasn't been easy at all. As a result of the disarray I have been in it has affected some of my decisions I have made in regards to the divorce and the commitments I made to my ex. I have made mistakes and I admit that. I have received a lot of support and a lot of prayers from people. I have seen some of my relationships healed in the midst of this season of my life and I wasn't expecting that. I truly am grateful. Unfortunately I have had some friends take a step back from me during this time. Their decision to do is understandable though I disagree. People will make mistakes especially when they have been rattled. In those cases unconditional support should be given to those experiencing traumatic events in their life like a divorce. I don't say this because I just so happen to be going through a divorce. I say it because someone I know went through a divorce a few years ago and I was treating them like some of my friends are treating me now. I wrote them off. I stepped back from them. I didn't offer the unconditional support I should've. I abandoned them. Until I went through my divorce I thought I was justified in how I handled that situation back then. I thought it was very black and white. I was wrong. There are gray areas and when you are in the midst of a divorce or the loss of any kind of relationship  your heart is being pulled in so many directions. I should've been supportive back then and I have learned a lesson. A hard one. It is unfortunate that those friends chose to abandon me. It's sad and pretty shocking but I'm not responsible for what other people do or how they react. I am only responsible for what I do and how I react to what others do to me. I am choosing to not be angry or spiteful and just move on.